Through my work in front of the camera as a TV personality and model, I learned what it truly means to be confident. (It’s not what you think). The truth is, you already have what it takes. You were born with it. You just need to remember what that feels like.
I believe it’s our birthright to be unstoppable. We just have to rediscover what it means to be free – of judgment, fear, doubt – of anything that weighs us down.
I know it can feel scary and overwhelming to put ourselves out there in a big way and actually do what our hearts are urging us to do. We think, “Who am I to start this business?” “What will people say?” “Am I smart, talented, good enough?” and on and on.
But whatever pain we may experience from another’s judgment of us is nothing in comparison to the pain we will undoubtedly feel by playing small.
What does it mean to play small? It means shrinking so others won’t feel insecure around us – it’s allowing fear to keep us from sharing our gifts. But when we dare to write our book, leave the unhealthy relationship, quit a job to start our dream business, or whatever it is, we inspire others to do the same.
The real question then becomes: Who are you not to start your own business (or anything else you feel called to do) and show up fully for yourself and others?
Who are you not to be gorgeous, brilliant, wildly successful, and joyful?!
Expressing our full potential is not just our right, it’s our responsibility. And it starts with confidence.
Through the consistent practices of self-compassion and meditation, I’ve discovered a few perspective shifts that have transformed my sense of self-worth. I’ve found that when I base my self-worth on who I am and my inherent value as a human being, rather than on what others think or how much I achieve, my confidence soars and my inner critic quiets.